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Online Dating: Four Reasons Why Men Should Be Online (And one reason why they shouldn’t)
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Online Dating: Four Reasons Why Men Should Be Online (And one reason why they shouldn’t)
by: Grant Adams
Men, if you don’t already have women chasing after you every day, then you should be dating women online. Here are the Four most compelling reasons why men should be seeking out and meeting women online, and one reason why they absolutely shouldn’t.
1) Online dating is the most amazing gift to men invented since woman herself. (Well, most women.)
Think about it for a moment. For one small flat fee (and sometimes for no fee at all) you can scope out women, learn what they like, what they don’t like, check out their picture and actually begin swapping emails, IM’s and talking with them.
Here’s what you don’t have: To get dressed up; to gas up your car; to spend hours of your prime time; to buy drinks for people you don’t’ know; to fail in public.
On balance, it’s a pretty convenient and effective method of meeting women.
2) There are MILLIONS of women ACTIVELY LOOKING for you online. They are not coy “bar chicks” or girls with boyfriends. They are what we call in marketing, HOT LEADS. Smoking hot! Because they are coming out to meet you half way. You just have to learn how to become the bait they are seeking.
Now, there are two basic reasons women are there on line. Some are there to look for a guy to marry. Some are looking for a guy to just hook up with.
But that pretty much explains guys, too. So no matter what reason you’re looking for women, there are women looking for you, too.
3) Women online range from not-so-hot to super-hot. I have personally hooked up with some of the most beautiful women of my life from online. And any cursory tour through one of the better sites will show you – this is not a side option for single guys – it’s a MUST DO!
So the attractiveness of women online pretty much mirrors the attractiveness of women anywhere, right? Well, that’s to be expected. But when you are at a bar or club trying to meet women, you only have a few dozen to choose from at most. And everyone is going to be hounding the hot ones.
Online, you’ve got those MILLIONS to choose from. What’s even better is that you can search for them by location, income, religion. . . all this stuff you can get out of the way before you even say Hi.
4) Online dating is THE place to practice your game. Whether you still remember awkward Junior High School dances like it was yesterday, or you effortlessly meet and hookup with women all the time, Online is the place to practice without personal rejection.
There are lots of great techniques for meeting and seducing women. Whatever “way” you are, or whatever “technique” you choose, you’ll have more time to practice it online. Whatever you do, learn from your mistakes as well as your successes. Not everything is going to work every time, and you shouldn’t expect it to.
One other great advantage to online dating is that you don’t have to fear rejection. These women you approach don’t know you. Your friends aren’t there to watch you crash and burn. So, you can take risks that you wouldn’t normally take if you were talking to a woman in person.
And that means you’ll succeed more than in person, too.
Maybe.
But there is one reason NOT to go online to meet women: Being closed minded. You are going to be exposed to lots more women online than you’ve ever seen before. If you are closed minded when you write or talk with them, you’re sure to fail. If you are not willing to get out of your rut and try something different, to learn something new, then you are sure to fail. If you don’t learn how to listen and read women’s profiles properly, to truly understand what they mean in their profiles or emails to you, you are sure to fail.
So, don’t be closed minded. Online dating is the single best method for meeting women today if you approach it properly. Done wrong, it can lead to the same results you’ve always had, and that may not be what you want.
About The Author
Grant Adams is author of the wildly successful and effective “Net2Bed System Manual: How To STAND OUT Online, So That By The Time You Finally Meet, She Is Already Yours”
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The 6 Don’ts of Online Dating
The 6 Don’ts of Online Dating
by: Jack Conway
In previous articles on Internet dating, I outlined what you should do when writing your personal ad, how to exchange e-mails with a woman who has replied to your ad, how to conduct an effective IM (Instant Messaging) conversation and what to do to land a first date.
In this article, I’m shifting gears. I’m going to tell you about the Six Don’ts of Internet dating.
These are things you should never do when it comes to picking up women online, regardless of how much coffee you drank.
1- When conversing through e-mail, don’t write your life story
Nothing turns off a woman more than a man who can’t shut up. If you don’t believe me, the next time you’re corresponding with a woman you’ve met online, write a one-page e-mail about what you like to do on weekends, and see what kind of response you get. Nine times out of 10, a woman won’t even reply to you. She’ll simply delete your e-mail and move on to the next guy. Why is that?
First, women usually perceive a long-winded man as needy. And most women want a challenge. Needy men aren’t challenging. Second, quite frankly, women want to do all of the talking. And they want you to listen.
What to do: Keep all your e-mail replies short (i.e. no longer than three sentences). The first two sentences should be used for answering a question (or questions) she may have asked, and the last sentence should be reserved for asking her a question. Remember: Questions keep the ‘dialogue’ moving, and give her the sense that you are thoughtful and interested.
2- Don’t initiate sexual talk
Many women think men have nothing but sex on brain. Though there is some truth to this statement, you’ll get further in the game by not hinting at or talking about sex.
Besides, in this politically correct world, who wants to take the chance of offending women with sex talk, especially if you don’t know them well?
What to do: Just don’t do it. In fact, you’d be surprised by how many women will actually initiate a conversation about sex. When a woman initiates talk about sex, consider that a green light, though I suggest that your comments be very well thought out. Besides, if you’re looking for aggressive sexual dialogue with a woman, there are plenty of ‘adult’ oriented personal sites that cater to that.
3- Don’t lie
It’s a known fact that a significant percentage of men and women lie about themselves, whether it’s about marital status, income, education level or occupation, when it comes to creating an online profile of themselves.
I’m a true believer that the lies will catch up with you — sooner rather than later. And if you find a woman who is really interested in you, and you’ve lied to her, it’s just a matter of time before she finds out the truth.
What to do: If you think your income is too low, or if your occupation isn’t exactly exciting, simply ‘up-sell’ other qualities about yourself. Focus on the good instead. Never lie to impress a woman. Ever.
4- Don’t send too many e-mail or IM messages
Again, you don’t want to appear needy.
One way to appear needy is by sending a woman three or four e-mail or IM messages a day.
Of course, if the e-mail or IM conversation is moving along at breakneck speed and is interesting and stimulating, then by all means, have a full-fledged dialogue with her. In other words, don’t hold back. You may even try to close the deal right there and ask her out on a date.
But if you’re in the early stages where you’re still in the process of getting to know each other, then I suggest keeping your interactions to a minimum.
What to do: I know it’s difficult, especially if the woman is hot, but you have to be disciplined. Limit yourself to two e-mails per day, and keep streaming IM conversations to no longer than 15 minutes. If the dialogue exceeds this time, then excuse yourself and end the conversation, saying that you have some things to take care of — and don’t go into detail about it.
By doing this, you’ll remain mysterious, something that turns most women on.
5- Don’t spread yourself too thin
One of the better problems to have with Internet dating is corresponding with too many women.
Yeah, I know exactly what you’re thinking: What man doesn’t want to be chased by dozens of beautiful women? But truth be told, having an effective personal ad that generates a lot of responses can backfire on you if you’re not careful.
For instance, in the past month, I’ve received 56 responses to my personal ad. That’s a ton of women to e-mail. In fact, it’s too many. Way too many.
If you try to reply to every single woman who responds to your ad, you’ll soon find yourself spending your days writing e-mail. More importantly, you’ll start forgetting what you’ve said and to whom.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been embarrassed because I asked a woman the same question four or five times.
What to do: Though I encourage you to be polite, you may find yourself physically unable to reply to every woman who has responded to your ad. In fact, I recommend that you don’t reply to every woman who responds to your personal ad.
Instead, if you’re getting dozens of responses each week, only reply to the women you wish to pursue further. Furthermore, if these leads don’t work out for you, then you can always go back to the other women you didn’t reply to originally.
6- Don’t appear too eager to go on a date
Unless a woman immediately asks to meet you (and some will), a rule of thumb about asking a woman for a date is to wait at least a week after the initial contact before asking her out.
If you ask her out too soon, when she’s not ready and comfortable, she’ll disappear.
If you wait, one of the things that will go through her mind is, why isn’t this guy asking me out?
When that happens, you’ll instantly become more attractive to her.
What to do: Let her make the first move. If she’s the kind of woman who wants to be pursued, she might be a high maintenance princess, and that’s the last thing you want to deal with.
Play it safe, play it cool
Now, we’re all a bunch of macho men, but you can never be too safe. The last thing you want is to be involved in a real-life fatal attraction.
So in addition to these six ‘don’ts,’ I also advise against handing out your telephone number or your address. Take your time to get to know the woman before revealing your personal information.
Now go score!
Jack Conway
http://www.weeklyscore.com
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Online Dating
Online Dating
by: Kelly Wolf
A common question among friends these days is whether or not singles should try to meet their ideal partner through online dating. The first answer usually comes from the cautious individuals who warn against predators and seemingly demented individuals. Next you have the handful of people who know ‘so and so’ who just got married to the person that they met online. When it is my turn, I always point out that there is no commitment by simply looking and discovering how it all works. What has someone got to lose by setting up a simple profile and seeing what happens?
By definition, online dating is the association of two individuals through the Internet. The idea doesn’t seem all that different from meeting a stranger in a bar or nightclub. Instead of getting dressed up, going out and using your discerning eye to select potential candidates from a crowd of singles gathered for various reasons, you can sit at your computer and put in a basic order for the ideal person. The initial ‘weeding’ is done for you.
First you need to choose from the numerous sites that offer this type of service. Make sure to visit several sites, browse as much as you can without signing up and make an educated decision about which one(s) might suit what you are looking for. Several sites offer many different options as far as what you can advertise you are looking for in a relationship from friendships to something very serious. For some, this range offers a great deal of prospects to choose from. Others would prefer a site that is much more focused on exactly the type of relationship they are looking for.
It’s the next step that is probably going to be the most difficult one. Actually communicating with someone who interests you or who has already let you know that what you have put in your profile interests them. Most sites have a ‘hint’ you can send to let a subscriber know that they have your interest, whether it be a smile, wink or some other cute flirting device. You will probably receive the same back or even a personal message. That’s where you make the decision about whether or not someone interests you enough to proceed. If no one interests you, don’t despair. People create profiles every day and some sites even offer suggestions based on questions asked when you set up your account.
If someone interests you immediately, you will have to make initial contact or respond to his or her inquiry to you. It’s even possible to feel the excitement and flutter in your stomach when you begin contact that you feel when meeting a potential date for the first time!
It’s important to remember to be cautious at first, be yourself, and be aware of potential problems with any person that might contact you and follow your own instincts. But most importantly, be yourself and have fun! It might be different for you, but you are now in charge of your dating life through your computer!
About The Author
Kelly Wolf writes for Singles Dating 247 . com – If you are single and looking for love then this is the site for you. Articles, Reviews and Links to the best sites on the Internet and the DrDating Forum – a forum for people looking for help in love, relationships and dating.
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How To Get More Responses At Online Dating Sites
How To Get More Responses At Online Dating Sites
by: Sharon Alger
So, you’ve decided to join a dating website. You’re hoping someone out there will find something interesting about you and try to get to know you better.
Many members worry about appearing ‘desperate’ or over keen. This can mean putting in less effort into a profile in a bid to ‘play it cool’. Of course, nobody wishes to be seen as desperate. However, keep this in mind: how will others know what you want, if you don’t ask for it? How will they ever appreciate your finer qualities if you remain tightlipped?
Therefore, to be successful in the online dating world, your profile is highly important. Members search through a large number of profiles on these sites. If there is little information about a prospective date, then they are more than likely to skim over an empty profile as quickly as possible. Look at this as a great chance to sell yourself!
The first aspect of your profile to consider should be your photo. No matter how much emphasis people put on the importance of personality, the old expression, ‘it’s nice to put a face to a name’ couldn’t be more apt.
Physical appearance plays a big part in the real world, when first becoming attracted to someone. Also, it helps to ensure that people will remember you. The golden rule when posting photos on dating sites is obvious – BE HONEST. We’ve all heard stories of people who’ve posted a photo that is ten or twenty years old. Or worse still, a photo of someone else entirely! Now, if you never intend to meet someone, then this is not a problem. But let’s be realistic – you wouldn’t be on a dating site if you weren’t hoping to meet someone!
A misleading photo causes all sorts of unnecessary problems on a first date. You will have your date questioning your honesty. You want to turn up for dates relaxed, with your best attitude put forward. Still not convinced? Just think how you would feel, if you were deceived by a photo, and that should be incentive enough for you to be accurate.
So what if you’ve gained a few pounds? Aged a bit? Give yourself some credit, you’re still a beautiful person, and sure to be someone’s ideal ‘type’. So, try to get a recent photo of yourself, looking the best you can. Avoid shots that are so dark or distant that no one can see your face. People will only see either an insecure person, or someone who has something to hide and move on. Just think how frustrated and disinterested you’d be if you came across such a picture.
Let’s talk about location. How much information is right? Obviously, for safety reasons you aren’t going to put your address into your profile. Apart from this, put as much detail as you feel comfortable with. At least, put the state you live in. at most, your suburb. Anything in between (such as the city your suburb is located in) is also fine. We all know this, but it bears repeating, do not put your phone number on any public site.
It will save everyone a great deal of time if you are open and honest about your sexual preference.
Talk about your interests and hobbies. Don’t just leave it blank! And don’t worry if they don’t seem interesting enough. This is who you are. If you are honest and forthcoming with this information, you will be more likely to attract the type of person you are after. For example, if you were the district running champion in high school, but never intend to run again, don’t put it in as a hobby! To put in hobbies you have no interest in, in the hope of appearing more impressive, will only attract people you have nothing in common with in the here and now.
So, if you like quiet nights in, say so! Try to paint a rich and detailed picture of what the real you likes to do.
You also really need to share a part of your personality with your audience. What are your beliefs? What are you looking for in a person? Also, if you feel you have special qualities such as a sense of humour or kind nature, try to write your profile in a way that sincerely reflects that.
You are now ready to make your first attempt at creating a winning profile! Remember, you just need to keep it honest and current. You need to show you’ve made some level of effort to let members know who the real you is. And when in doubt, remind yourself: give the sort of information you yourself would be wanting to know about when looking at other members. Good luck!
About The Author
Sharon Alger is the owner of the free dating site, www.singles-world.info .
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Online Dating, Internet Dating
Online Dating, Internet Dating
by: Cher Sern Lim
An Introduction To Online Dating And A Glimpse Into Why It’s So Popular And What You Need To Do To Succeed At Internet Dating.
If you’re bored of regular dating or you’ve heard of this thing called online dating and you’re curious to try it out, why not? Similar to dating you can still meet women, make friends and perhaps even more! But online dating is not all fun and games and there are a lot of things that a person has to know about online dating before one gets into the intricacies of it. Online dating may seem to be the simplest thing in the world but it is not. It should be viewed in all earnestness or things could go hay wire. Every game has its rules and unless you know all the rules you just can’t become a good player and eventually a winner.
Online dating is, to put is very simply a free dating service that with the help of a machine namely the computer via the Internet. That in itself makes the idea and the process a very novel one indeed. Hundreds of happy single people across the globe have been successful in finding suitable partners by the means of online dating.
The reason is pretty simple. It is very much the same reason that the internet itself became so popular. The Internet opens up a whole new world of communication and contact. Online dating is fast, you can have as much privacy as you want and it’s cheap!
In order to enjoy it and succeed at online dating there are a few rules to remember and they are:
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If you don’t know where to start internet dating, just hit some chat rooms of your interest. There you’ll be able to meet interesting people who have the same hobbies and preferences.
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You can either write your own personal ad or get a dating service to do it for you. It’s of course better if you can write your own personals to give it your special touch. Feel free to embellish on certain details but as much as possible be honest with what you put in it. It is of course important to remember that people will judge you depending on what you write so you might want to be careful about that.
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After you’ve met someone you think you’re interested in, get to know them better by moving into a private chat room with them. Women also enjoy conversing through email and the quicker she replies the better your chances are of getting a date. Do note though that women hate waiting so its best to return her emails promptly.
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Don’t worry about making mistakes and goofing up when you’re trying out online dating. You are hidden behind the anonymity of the internet and you can erase your mistakes a lot easier than you could if you had goofed up in real life. So just go out there and chat up a storm with anyone who seems remotely interesting.
About The Author
Cher Sern Lim
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