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There’s a general national myth about wedding nights; supposedly, every bride and groom have the most intimate and wonderful sex of their lives on their wedding nights. In reality, while your wedding night may be a little different, it is an intimate moment, and an opportunity. Here are some tips that can help make your wedding night one of the best evenings of your life.

1. Lower your expectations
So this may not be the most amazing sex you’ve ever had. So what? Try to just enjoy whatever happens.

2. Talk to each other
Spend some time relaxing, talking about the wedding, and about your love for each other. Let things get romantic and sappy. The sex that follows will be intimate and amazing.

Sex Advice

3. Expand your idea of the “wedding night”
If you’re too tired for foreplay, that sex isn’t going to be that great. Couldn’t it be better to wait until the morning?

4. Flirt with each other during the wedding
It can be easy to spend the whole wedding greeting Aunt Sally and Cousin Bob, cutting the cake, and attending to a thousand other details. Don’t forget to stop, stare into each other’s eyes, share a few extra kisses, and flirt with each other. It will also help build the excitement for your alone time later on.

5. Try something new
Perhaps there’s been something you’ve been wanting to try? Your wedding night can be a fun night to experiment,

6. Set the stage
Help yourselves get into the mood by setting the stage. Light some candles, bring some CDs and a radio, scatter rose petals, or do whatever helps you get in the mood. And don’t be afraid to kick friends and family out early. While they may tease you a little, they’ll certainly understand!

The G Spot

7. Take things slowly
Savor this moment. While you may be a little too tired to have the most technically excellent sex of your lives, this is likely to be among your most romantic and intimate sexual experiences.

8. Read some sex books
Who couldn’t use a little advice from the pros? Some to try: The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man and Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men.

Weird Sex

9. Don’t have sex with each other for a couple of weeks before the wedding
Many couples try this to make the wedding night sex fresh and new again. Others go even further by giving up sex months before the wedding so that they may be virgin-like on the wedding night.

10. Wear something special
Wedding night lingerie can really help the mood. Pick something a little different than what you usually wear to excite your partner. Make sure you feel good in it, as a confident lover is almost always a better lover.

It’s also a good idea to accept the fact that you may be too exhausted or tipsy to have sex. If one of you falls asleep, or isn’t in the mood, remember, it’s not a prediction of a doomed marriage. Spend the time relaxing and remembering how wonderful your wedding day was.

(Submitted by a guest author.)

Rules of One Night Stands

These have never really been a goal of mine, but I know that there are a lot of men who don’t mind an occasional romp that doesn’t lead to a relationship. Guys are more interested in quick sex, as a general rule. However, there are also many women who want sex without the commitment of a relationship. And, at some point in your dating life, you’ll probably run into what I term the reverse-payback. Essentially, you get emotionally involved with a girl you sleep with right off the bat, but as it turns out, she only wanted a romp in the hay, and she promptly dumps you.

If your target is to have casual sex with no ties to any particular girl, then you’re going to have to step up your energy – and your psychology. As I said, there are many women who are interested in the same thing, but they still want the same primary elements that other women want and demand: attraction, trust, and respect.

In order for her to dive in to this with you quickly, you have to be very aggressive with your teasing and your humor, as well as be very willing to move forward with your progression a lot quicker. You’ll want to go from wherever you are to more private surroundings as quickly as possible. The secret is to get her isolated so you can work with her one-on-one. You start by getting her away from other friends, then into a surrounding away from all other people.

The ideal candidates for one-night stands are women who you have an instant chemistry with. Things just “click,” and you’re able to move ahead much faster than with a woman who has setup a lot of the roadblocks to your seduction. These women aren’t “easy” by any means they’re just ready for you. Every so often, these people come along and we can’t deny our gut-level attraction. Now, remember that these women are on the far side of the spectrum, the one that goes from “super easy” to “super frigid.” You still have to exercise caution and self-discipline along the way.

Handling a one-night stand is entirely up to you and your needs. I have known many people who started a good short-term romance from a one-nighter. Although you should observe that it is difficult to transition from a brief sexual fling into a more secure relationship, since you will have put the cart before the horse, so to speak. The foundation of most short- to long-term relationships is best created with a more prolonged period before you gratify your lusts.

The best way to handle things is to be very careful not to put out a false pretense at any point during the seduction. Do not lie or con your way into her pants or her bed! All of this information is to be used honorably, and using false pretenses to get laid is dishonorable, and you will suffer consequences. I’m not going to threaten you with bad Karma, but you should know that every action you take affects you and your life. Being a ‘player’ in the bad sense of the word will only come back to haunt you later.

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(This guest author is talking as much about the real world as the online dating world.)

Always look fantastic, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential date anywhere at any time.

* Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking

* Never ever talk about ex boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of previous boyfriends is your business only.

* Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.

* Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.

* Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.

* If he is available Sunday, you are available Friday.

* Never be available when he wants you to be. Never answer when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.

* Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s prerogative.

Love advices

* Never ever have sex with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.

* Ensure you receive flowers, if he doesn’t know what a florist is, dump him.
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* Let your man pay. If he is attracted, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

* Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness program at a gym. However much you hate it, your date loves your body as much as your mind.

* Keep dates short but your men interested. Less is always more.

Relationship Do’s and Dont’s

* Don’t reveal information you don’t have to. A mysterious woman drives men wild.

Online Dating Rules

* Always let them come to you, don’t chase via email

* Block anyone who annoys you instantly

* Place the best & most vampish photo up you can find

* Don’t reply to instant messages with clever opening lines

(This guest author offers some interesting advice for women.)

Have you been married for a while now and things seem to be spiraling into a whirlwind of different schedules for all family members? Do you find little time for romance, routines daily that seem to be robotic like, schedules to keep, commitments to others that take time from the family dynamics? Do you feel you and your husband need to rekindle the bonds that brought you together in the first place?

The first thing to do is consider all the distractions of daily life. With children, time commitments can be significant and can be all encompassing. There are car pools, school meetings, sports, birthday parties, homework, shopping trips, and it seems never ending sometimes. These things all help a child to develop social skills and are very important; however, so is your time alone with your spouse and you must try to find a balance.

Maybe you can figure a way to lighten the burden on both of you with regards to all the children’s activities by involving others, such as grandparents or aunts and uncles, to take on some of the picking up and dropping off chores. Most grandparents would love to have more time with their grandkids and would find the drive time a good opportunity to communicate more with the kids. What seems like a chore to you could be very enjoyable for the grandparents. Today kids are so busy that they often have little time to spend hours with grandparents so these encounters can be a special time. Maybe you can have a party away from your home at a pizza place or at a sporting event so you do not have to spend hours cleaning and preparing foods, etc. There are bird spotting tours and leaf identification tours that are lead by a Park Ranger which kids will love and will teach them the joys of being outside and nature. The time they are on the supervised hike can be a good time for you and your husband to take a short walk together and discuss some important issues or just relax and spend the time together.

The idea is to look at the week activities and see what time you can carve out for you and your husband alone. To have that time to speak to your spouse uninterrupted and to show care and concern are vital to a good marriage. It will make the time you do spend with the children much more productive for them and you as well.

A child senses when the parents are in synch in their marriage. The old saying, “The best gift you can give a child is happy parents” holds true in this modern day and age when everyone is so rushed and so intent on doing everything quickly. Take some time to preserve your love and concern for your husband or wife and it will pay off in happier children and more loving and nurturing for the family as a whole.

Plan your life and do not just let the world set up all the pressures that need to be met. Make your own goals for your family, your marriage, and your peace of mind.

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(Article submitted by a guest author.)